Gridlocks happen when people’s life dreams [hopes, aspirations, and wishes for their life are not being addressed/respected by each other.
Such deep dreams could include:
When dreams are respected: couples are happier as they realize that marriage is supposed to help them with those dreams – and not manipulate the other out of achieving the goal. The couple who knows that the marriage is meant to help with each partner’s dreams and thus is able to forgo dreams with the knowledge that it aspirations will be acknowledged and considered later.
Hidden dreams are only likely to emerge after the marriage is felt as safe – i.e. first three Gottman principles. When you get to expose your dream and it seems as if your dream is in opposition to the other’s dreams, tensions seem to escalate at first.
But there is a process here:
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